How to Create Online Dating Profile Pictures They’ll Fall in Love With (so they get the opportunity to fall in love with you)

Everyone’s an expert on their own pictures, or so they think.
After all, you know your own face and body, and when you’re looking great, right?

Not so fast… the evidence says otherwise.

Wait, I don’t really look like that… do I?

Most of us have heard our own voices recorded and then played back, and that first time, experienced a rather strange sensation… “that sounds nothing like me!” But it actually does.

Just not to you, since you’re used to hearing your voice filtered through your own ear canals, your own skull, that big resonator just above your neck. If you play your recorded voice back for a friend, they’ll likely confirm that for you… “Yup, sounds exactly like you.” Gulp.

In photographs, your “inner critic” is that filter above your neck, and that little bugger has been with you, and learned all your “flaws” for your entire lifetime. Chances are your “inner critic” is entirely wrong most of the time as well. The list of things that pesky monster picks on are yours, not someone else’s. Your internal baggage, your insecurity trash can all dumped out in a big smoking, stinky, heap.

We’ve all got one. That ear you think sticks out, the eye that’s bigger than the other, or lower, that weird freckle right under your… STOP! That’s just your head-noise. Nobody else sees or cares about that stuff. Lies, lies, lies, sweet little not-so-sweet lies. During your photo session, part of your job is to send that inner critic packing for a few hours. As your photographer, it’s part of my job to help you do just that.

In my work as a career consultant and headshot photographer with hundreds of professional actors, to isolate their casting and brand accurately, we focus on “how you’re most likely to be perceived by a stranger you just met.” Imposing or comforting? Authoritative or collaborative? Upscale or blue collar? Romantic or realist? Construction worker or concert pianist? Some people call this “type casting,” I call it “getting hired.”

An actor must know how others perceive them on first impression, or they don’t often book the job they’re after, because they’re going after the wrong ones. Most inexperienced actors really have no idea how others truly perceive them, unless they’ve done the hard work of figuring this mystery out, and have become working professionals. It’s an essential skill for you to possess as well, if you’re searching for a great date that can turn into more.

Ego vs Reality

You can fight it all you want, all your ego wants, but in the overcrowded, commodity-framed world of online dating, people form snap judgements about you within seconds of viewing your profile, or more accurately, your dating profile pictures. If your shots aren’t working for you, in most cases, your profile you worked so hard on goes unread.

People are often wildly off-base and inaccurate in their intuitions, though sometimes a stranger’s perceptions can be eerily spot on. Your online dating profile portrait is your chance to guide and influence how you are perceived, how you choose to have others see you.
You can use this to your advantage, as in “honestly,” or to your disadvantage, as in “dishonestly.” I strongly suggest the former, obviously, since no one likes to be lied to, especially before they’ve even met you!

To “selfie, or not to selfie”

“Damn, I look smokin’ all oiled up on the beach,” pumped at the gym, or in that perfect pair of just right ragged worn-in jeans. Er… not so much for a prime-time online dating profile picture. You may indeed look great, but here’s the reality: You’re looking at your phone! There’s ZERO authentic connection with the person looking at your picture, no emotional message, except, well, “damn, I look hot!” Which may be great to humble your Facebook and Twitter crowd with the dazzling wonderfulness of you, but in the online dating world, with the possible exception of hook-ups, this sends all the wrong vibes.

If you’ve got a picture that you really feel truly represents you in your best light, and it’s a phone shot from your real-life adventures, then just maybe, it could be one of your profile images. But the rest of your shots should be taken with a skilled professional online dating profile portrait photographer.

Bring in the Professional, but choose wisely

There are roughly 10,000 plus professional portrait and headshot photographers in Los Angeles, all eager to take your pictures, and your hard-earned cash. Your mission is to find one who not only has technical and artistic skills, but is genuinely interested in who you are, in telling empowering you to tell your story.

They should also be someone you feel a connection with.
It’s a big ask I’ve found, because that photographer needs to have mastered a very particular set of skills beyond making lovely, competent images. They need to be able to put you at ease, get you comfortable in an inherently uncomfortable situation, and then truthfully bring out the very best aspects of who you are, inside and out. In a picture. In a couple of hours. After you’ve driven there in brutal traffic. With a headache, and mom calling on your cell right beforehand. Yeah… a big ask. But you should settle for nothing less. It’s your love-life on the line, after all.

What’s the Secret Sauce of a great online dating profile picture?

There is some magic involved here, all light, good, yummy magic, but alchemy, most surely. In my sessions with online dating clients, we start with an in-person consultation. I read your profile, ask about what kind of person you’re hoping to attract, what makes a great relationship to you. Many of my fellow photographers think I’m crazy to offer that, up front, before potential clients have even decided to hire me. I can’t imagine doing it any other way. Why? Because just like a date, this is all about chemistry.

If we don’t vibe, and create rapport, trust, ease, and excitement together in our first meeting, then I don’t agree to shoot you, and you shouldn’t hire me, because those things don’t simply appear on shoot-day. I don’t want your money so badly that I’d ever agree to shoot you if I didn’t think I could be of superb service to your journey.
If it’s not clicking between us, if there’s no fire, then with much affection and best wishes, onward, be free!

Find who you’re meant to shoot with. Take the gold from my consultation with you, and make magic with someone who really truly gets you, and is into creating with you.
Just like a date, you know pretty fast if there’s that “spark” in our meeting.

The Magic of Technique

When I shoot a client, days after we’ve chosen wardrobe, locations, worked through relaxed, connected poses on shoot day, all that good stuff, we play pretend… you know, just like you did when you were little. “Imagine that your dream date is sitting across from you right now… forget about me and my camera, let’s play some killer tunes, and imagine… where are the two of you right now? Beach-side cabin, out on the sand… okay, great. What time of day or night is it? Night time… got it. Now, she or he is sitting right next to you by this crackling fire, your toes touching tentatively under the warm sand. What do they look like? Take a moment and really feel them next to you. What does their laugh sound like? Yes, really, their laugh, the one that makes you smile no matter what… that’s right. Click.

Do you think that picture grabs a viewer’s attention more powerfully than a selfie, or if you were worrying about that funny thing you nose does when you smile, and if your hair is okay?
You betcha. It works like gang busters. They forget about all the other profiles, and you get an e-mail right then and there. I am certain this works, because my clients have told me it does.

Reach out to me on my website and let’s meet up for your consult, and I’ll show you how this alchemy thing truly works. This process can change people’s lives. I know, it’s changed many of my client’s lives… it’s changed mine too, and my elusive, perfect “she” is working in the office next to me right now. Seriously, zip me an e-mail or drop me a line. There’s nothing to lose, it’s free… and what you might gain, well, that’s up to you quite entirely. I certainly wish what I’ve found, your version of course, for you. I hope to play a small part in transforming your dream relationship, into your reality.

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How to Get A Guy to Notice You Online & Weed Out DUDs!

how to get a guy to notice you

Are you wondering how to get a guy to notice you online? Someone who is really a winner? Not only that, but just how do you weed out all those duds, you know the crazies, losers and ghosters that somehow manage to find you?

It can be super challenging and downright frustrating to find a great match on an online site/app for sure!  But finding true love can be done and is being done every day.  Even during covid-19. You just need to learn how to do it!  There are eight fantastic ways to stand out and attract lots of great guys while weeding out DUDs (Definitely Unworkable Dudes) who will just waste your time, breadcrumb, disappear or leave you in heartbreak.

For example, one of our coaching clients, a wonderful nurse named Jade, used just one of these messaging/texting tips to find her forever love– after decades of being alone.  So here are eight dating tips that will help you get a great guy to notice you.

How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip #1 Have a fantastic main photo!

This means you are smiling warmly and looking directly into the camera.  Wear a red scoop top—men are attracted to red!  And you want to show a little skin, but not too much décolletage.  Moderate makeup and a trendy haircut will make you super attractive!  Remember, men are very visual creatures and all these tips are based on research on what makes a woman attractive!!  Using a great photo like this will get you lots of guys to choose from and then you can use the rest of the tips to weed out the DUDs.

How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip #2 Challenge some item in their profile

Take a look at an attractive guy’s profile and pick out something you could gently argue against.  For example, if he says he loves long hikes alone with his dog, you could say, “But hiking together can be a high😉”   Think of the repartee you see between lovers in rom coms—they disagree and have a flirtaciously great time doing it! If they do not respond playfully, you may want to weed them out as DUDs.

How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip #3  Ask for more info about something in his profile

See what he says he loves in his profile and ask for more info about it. You will tap into his passion and  he will notice you! And respond.  So for example, if he says he loves windsurfing, you could say, “How did you get into windsurfing?  It sounds awesome!”  Or if he is a LA Clippers fan, as him who is favorite player is.

How to get a guy to notice you on Bumble: Tip #4  Use a GIF

The very best ice breaker on Bumble is a GIF.  Make it funny and flirty—for example, a GIF of Jennifer Aniston where you say, “Jennifer let the cat out of the bag about your awesomeness😉”   Or find a funny or unique one and say “This one’s for you, Mr Handsome.”

How to get a guy to notice you on Bumble: Tip #5  Ask funny questions

In addition to GIFs you can also ask a funny question like “Do you have a power animal?” or If you had a warning label, what would it say?”  “What’s your secret superpower?”  Or, “What would you do if you won the lottery”?  This differentiates you from all the other women out there.  It makes you stand out because you come across as much more interesting.  These are the kinds of funny questions that our coaching client Jade used to attract a wonderful lawyer who could have had his pick of any number of women.  He was so attracted by her playfulness.  They are now engaged.

How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip # 6 Use three magic questions

For example, our brilliant Chief Creative Officer, Emily Manning from suggests, at the very start of the messaging conversation  it’s a game-changer to throw out three questions — two real ones and one funny to lighten things up. One question is ok – but three, ending with a fun one really gets the conversation more interesting and memorable. Something like, “Hey Joe I’m intrigued. I’d love to know a bit more about you! For example, where did you grow up? What kind of work do you do? And, most importantly, what’s your ultimate guilty pleasure/ favorite candy/ favorite movie of all time/secret talent/most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?


Pay close attention to how he answers so you can weed out the DUDs!   If he looks like a good guy and appears to have his life together, continue to communicate for fun and see if he emerges as a good candidate. We especially recommend this if your dance card isn’t full as it can keep your high vibe energy going. Even if the guys aren’t serious candidates you can give them a little time to see if they can step up! You can usually tell after a few message exchanges.   The great guys usually see the questions as a fun game – like they need to pass a test. It sets you up right away as the high value decider/ chooser/interviewer.


How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip # 7 Mine for more info about his goals

You can ask questions like, “What brought you to Match (Bumble)?”  Will get a clue about long term goals.  Is he just looking to have fun?  Or to find a relationship?  You can also mix in a funny one, like, “What is your relationship goal? You want 27 kids LOL?”  Once again this sets you up as the chooser.

How to get a guy to notice you online: Tip # 8 Qualify the guy as a good match before you meet!

One key thing that will help you avoid wasting your valuable time with DUDs:  If they ask you out really quickly, qualify them as good matches. Text, “I’d love to meet, Joe! I just need to know a bit more about you first. Then add two serious and one fun question. You can even go the silly route – like “Do you take peperoni on your pizza?” Or, “What’s the funniest text you’ve ever gotten?” Google “Fun get to know you questions” to find more options. This is makes you different from the average woman who is just asking same-old “how was your day” questions.

So, if you are wondering how to get a great guy to notice you online while weeding out DUDs, get a great photo, use GIFs, real questions and a few funny ones with guys you are interested in. Ultimately, the best candidates will respond playfully and give you more info about themselves up front. You want a guy who shares about himself, has your sense of humor, a great guy who has it going on!! And you CAN find him!

Here’s my latest video on how to get a great guy to notice you online.



3 Reasons You Believe a Good Man is Hard to Find

If you ask 3 women why they’re not in a relationship, you’ll get 3 different answers. A lot of us are taught, “trust the timing, the right man will come to sweep you off your feet” but for some, that’s a blurry image to picture. And of course, there’s ongoing anxiety over the pandemic.

FYI: People are meeting people and finding love this year– it’s still happening, sis! The world hasn’t stopped, people are just getting more creative with adapting 6-feet apart.

If you’re having trouble figuring out why it’s hard for you to find a good man (outside of social distancing), read on to see if you connect with any of these reasons.

1. You’re not being available to yourself.

Being available to yourself includes seeing yourself the way you want to be seen in a relationship, keeping promises to yourself, treating yourself the way you want to be treated, or speaking to yourself in a lovingly way. This problem is common with people who tend to get stuck in codependent relationships, people-pleasers, and people who struggle with putting themselves first due to a lack of boundaries.

If you’re not showing up for yourself consistently, it’s going to be hard for someone to show up in the way that you want them to.

Your actions could show that you’re doing things with the expectation that you’ll get loved in return, instead of doing actions strictly from the heart. These “loving actions” could energetically be read as doing things out of fear or not being enough. If your energy is fearful or depleted, you could be repelling the healthy love that you want. Don’t negotiate love, queen. You’re worth the extra mile!

Instead of over-working yourself physically, emotionally, or financially to the next partner, pour all of that time and attention into yourself and only do things from the heart without an expectation.

When we give ourselves emotional support, practice self-compassion, and deal with our frustrating moments mindfully, it becomes easier to invite other people to love you similarly.

2. You haven’t resolved your past relationship pain.

Taking the time to work through all of your past relationship wounds is a crucial step in making room to attract the right man. One way you could work through this healing process is to find ways to deeply reflect on your past relationship trauma. I recommend practicing acceptance and peace for the past, identifying your role and behaviors that you had in past relationships, and work through forgiveness. This opens up the door to attract the right kind of love from a man.

But give yourself time. Recognize that you may not be ready for a relationship because you’re still healing or that you still may be involved with the person you’re trying to end things with are things that can block you from having new healthy love into your life.

3. You have a belief that you can’t have the love that you want.

This is a huge block because we attract what we believe. If there’s a part of you that believes you can’t have an amazing relationship due to past relationships with family members or romantic partners, the Law of Attraction or the universe will aim to prove you right.

If you’re constantly attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable, non-committing, toxic, or with very little going for themselves, it’s no coincidence–at some point in your life, you’ve made up your mind that there’s nothing better out there.

Some ways that we block our love-blessings is by believing in the excuses and stories we tell ourselves. “Chile, I’m 40– it’s too late for me. I’m introverted, how can I meet Mr. Right? I need to lose 10 lbs before I can find the man of my dreams. All the good ones are taken. I’ll have to move to a different state to meet the right man. I’m divorced with 3 children, who will want to be a stepdad?”

Take a second look at those statements above and I bet you’ll find a friend or a colleague who can prove one of those (if not all of them) wrong.

Now granted, there are legit excuses like, “Nah sis, the Rona’s out there” or “I do need to take the time to love myself more so that I won’t get in an unhealthy relationship or give too much of myself to the next man.” I get it and I want to honor the challenging situations that come up.

However, you can still work on changing your overall belief system because no pandemic in history has ever lasted forever. So if online dating or wearing a mask-n-chill isn’t your thing, rest assured you can very much create a post-COVID dating plan.

Also, writing out that you deserve it and that you’re more than worthy of having this relationship is a powerful way to start working with your beliefs.

The good thing is you have the power to change these 3 blocks. When you change your energy, the way that people treat you has to (and will) change. To put some of these old and tired excuses behind you, I encourage you to spend 15 minutes writing out the way you want to be loved and valued. What does that look for you?

Psst! I’m teaching a Self-Love mini-course all about increasing your self-love and attracting a healthy relationship. And it’s FREE! Would you like to sign up? Click here to register for it!

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Have You Met a Control Freak? 5 Red Flags

Dating can be a minefield for many reasons. While there are many great people out there, unfortunately, there are also plenty of guys who are controlling in their lives and relationships. Most of us will instinctively try to avoid those who are obviously domineering or jealous. However, people can sometimes hide it well. You may be in the “talking stage” with a guy you have met on a dating app or a friend who seems keen to date you. You may have even been on the first date and feel a little unsure about aspects of his behavior. If you are wondering how to spot a control freak before you get too invested in them, I have listed five red flags that you should look out for!

Why are some men controlling?

There are various reasons why someone may be a control freak. Some men are just plain cruel, while others may be flawed for other reasons. They may have been brought up in bad circumstances or suffer from anxieties or disorders that make them terrified of losing control of any aspect of their lives. While the causes of people’s issues may be out of their control, that does not mean that you have to tolerate not being respected.

Men can sometimes be controlling unintentionally. You should clarify that this behavior is not something that you are willing to accept. A good guy will acknowledge your concerns and agree to change his ways. If he dismisses your feelings, he is probably not somebody you should get in a relationship with. You can bet that a guy who manifests the signs of controlling behaviour over messages before you have even met would end up being a controlling boyfriend and trust me, you don’t want to end up with one. I’ve been in this situation myself after I chose to ignore the early signs of controlling behaviour and I’d like to share my experiences with you so you spot those red flags and avoid a stressful and possibly abusive relationship.

Red flags that you’ve met a control freak

The dating process is a way to get to know someone and work out if they are a suitable partner before you commit to a serious relationship. This process can start as soon as you give somebody your phone number or accept their social media friend request, or you may have matched with him on Tinder or another dating app and be trying to get an idea of who he is through messaging before you agree to meet him in person. This stage is very useful for screening potential partners for red flags! So what are the early signs that a man you’ve met is a control freak?

1. He hates you interacting with other people

If a guy you have been talking to gets annoyed or angry at the idea of you spending time with other people he may consider as rivals, this is a big red flag. While it is normal to want exclusivity with someone you are dating seriously, getting angry at an early stage (especially before the first date!) is usually a sign of being controlling.

When I was younger and more naive, I started messaging a guy from a dating site. Within a week of speaking to him, he had accused me of “sleeping around” because he saw an Instagram photo of me with a male friend. Foolishly, I ignored this red flag and agreed to go on a date with him a couple of weeks later. Surprise, surprise, he turned out to be a nightmare. My advice if you are in this situation: steer clear!

2. He wants to choose everything about the date

While it is sometimes nice to have him plan everything if he wants to take you on a date and insists on planning every aspect of it, this can be a bad sign. I’ve spoken to guys who literally would not let me choose the restaurant, the meeting time, or even what I wore on the date! As you can imagine, these relationships did not last long. If a guy you are messaging is not open to any suggestions or compromise, you are best off avoiding them. Just imagine how controlling he could be if the two of you ever lived together or had children?

3. He criticizes your appearance

Have you ever had a guy text you criticisms about what you wear, or leave critical comments on your Instagram photos? He may tell you that your skirt is too short or your dress too low-cut, or he may tell you that you aren’t showing enough skin. While these criticisms seem to be the opposite of each other, the psychology they reveal is similar: he wants to control what you wear because he sees your body as his property.

4. He sulks when he doesn’t get his way

Throwing a tantrum or sulking when you don’t get what you want is a habit that most people grow out of during childhood. Unfortunately, many people continue this into adulthood. While men who get aggressive when they don’t get their way are usually easy to spot, being passive-aggressive can be more subtle yet manipulative. If his sulks are triggered by anything from you not responding to his texts instantly to not wanting to send him nudes or agree to sleep with him, this is a major red flag. Part of maturity is learning to deal with and hide your disappointment, and a healthy relationship means compromise.

5. Others warn you about him

If other people who know him, such as his friends or exes, warn you about him, you should usually listen. Although many guys can seem incredibly friendly and charming at first, some people have a possessive, controlling side that only reveals itself after some time. If he seems nothing but sweet and lovely to you while you are getting to know him but has a bad reputation among others, this shouldn’t be ignored. There are countless stories of seemingly kind men turning out to be controlling and even abusive in the long run.

What should you do if you notice any of these signs in a guy you are talking to or considering dating? Ultimately, the choice is yours. Red flags are not always a cause to run a mile, but they do signal a potential future issue, and you should keep an eye out for them when choosing who to date.

Minor obsessive habits can be more of a sign of low self-esteem than of harmful intent. If you notice one or two minor signs, you should call him out on them. If he responds apologetically, feels embarrassed, and takes your feelings on-board, these can sometimes be overcome. After all, nobody is perfect! However, if he is just a selfish and controlling person who does not respect you, it is best to break things off before it is too late.

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Skinny or Curvy? Which Body Type do Millionaires Like to Date?

Results: Which Body Type do Millionaires Like to Date?

 So, to answer the question, which body type do millionaires like to date? Do our Luxy men like chubby girls? Skinny girls? Or any other type of girls?

  Reddit took a poll asking users to choose the most attractive body type to them. Reddit asked their male audience to select the photo which represented their favourite body shape on women from the pictures below.

female body shape types

 The results from this poll demonstrate that ‘fit’, ‘curvy’ and ‘average’ body types are the most popular. The pictures used to represent these three descriptions of body shapes do not vary to a wide extent. This suggests that a larger percentage of men prefer an averagely shaped female body.

 Unlike Luxy, Reddit is not a platform that targets millionaires, so we conducted the same survey on our millionaire dating site. The survey was conducted on 229 millionaire men around the world. We found out whether Luxy men prefer to date skinny, curvy or average body types on women.

 The results revealed that 56% of Luxy’s male millionaires voted for curvy female body types as their favourite. 37% preferred skinny girls and only a mere 7% of the 229 millionaire men like average female body types. From these results, we can easily deduct the outcome that Luxy men prefer curvy women. But is that really what all girls should aim to achieve?

 Female responses have not been officially recorded through this survey. But studies have shown that in 2016, female and male preferences surrounding the ideal female body shape did not differ. A slim body with curvy hips and an average bust size was outlined as the most attractive body type for males and females. The current trends at the time can influence society’s opinions on which body shape is more desirable.


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Silicon Valley Dating | The Ultimate Tips for Scoring the Perfect Date for Professionals

Singles in Silicon Valley: Men feel outmatched, women outnumbered

This ratio reflects the local economy in Palo Alto and the whole Santa Clara Valley. Global high-tech giants and tech startups have struggled for years to bring more women into their offices.

For example, men make up about 70 percent of the working staff of Apple, Facebook and Google. A company with thousands of employees facing this disparity has natural problems. Departments with different gender balances have no chance to mix or socialize.

Silicon Valley professionals dating. Nerdy single and programmer working as software engineer. Singles feel underwhelmed by the choice of singles.

In the city of digital natives and tech nerds, many singles are frequently using dating apps, even though they doubt their success. But Silicon Valley dating also means staying digital because everyone is using dating apps and sites.

Women reportedly say they feel underwhelmed by both the daily working life and the choice of men they meet on their job. In contrast to that, men say they are outmatched and overlooked. Since there are just too many other single men around, it’s hard to stand out or meet anyone else. Helpful are the suggestions on how to make the first move correctly, so men (and of course women, too) should check out these five tips on how to attract a woman.

Silicon Valley Single girl smiling while online dating using Luxy.

One Luxy user, Jennifer W. of San José, explained that many fellow singletons are tired of endless swiping on mainstream dating apps. Having used several ones herself, she ended up on 15 first dates.

Some of them were that disappointing, it made her to delete some apps right away. Eventually she turned to Luxy, claiming it is the best dating app available in Silicon Valley. “It became absolutely necessary to actually match with like-minded people. While I hate elitism and people who think they are better than others, it was necessary to draw a line. Too many guys on general dating apps where not what I was looking for: different ideas of spending free time or only interested into hookups. Luxy was the first app that actually worked.”


5 Relationship Goals To Keep The Romance Alive

 Being in a relationship doesn’t give you a free pass. Relationships take hard-work and patience to flourish. That’s why having relationship goals are an awesome tool to keep your relationship on track. 

 Often, couples describe that they feel their relationship isn’t as romantic as before. By digging deeper, this usually crystals into several components that have to be addressed: For a healthy and happy relationship, romantic relationship goals should be attainable, positive, and progressive. 

 You need to be realistic in what you and your partner can do for each other, if you set couple goals that are not possible to achieve then you and your partner will only be wasting your time and energy. This does not lead to a healthy relationship.

 Below are 5 Romantic Relationship Goals which can help further any serious relationship:

Goal 1: Be Yourself

 This is vital. Pretending to be somebody else never works, your partner likes you for a reason, don’t change yourself and lose that connection. If you lose track of who you are and feel like your relationship has transformed you into a completely different person, then your relationship may be in deep trouble. 

 Whether it’s your hobbies, interests, or your own social life, make sure you don’t sacrifice yourself, your partner will thank you for it. There is a lot of overlap between relationship goals and personal development goals. If you are achieving success and growing as a person then your relationship will also often improve as a result. The two are intertwined.

a couple spending time together in relationship

Goal 2: Make Time For Each Other

 Everyone is busy, we all have a lot of responsibilities, things to take care of. But if you want your relationship to keep spicy, you absolutely have to make time for each other. If you are both busy, reserve time during the week and weekend especially for yourselves. Making time to spend solely with your partner is what keeps relationships going, and is one of the most important romantic couple goal that you should always keep. 

 Because how are you going to connect with your significant other on a deep level if you don’t even know what they’ve done that week? Whether it’s a setting a date night or even a routine video call from the other side of the world, letting your other half know you love them and setting some time aside for them makes all the difference. Stick to this relationship goal and your partner will thank you for it.

Goal 3: Keep The Romance Alive

 Relationships should get more intense and meaningful over time and not stagnate. For this to happen you need to make sure that you and your partner don’t fall into a rut. This romantic relationship goal involves being creative, think about something you could do for your partner that liven the mood. 

 Spice things up every once in a while, send flowers, surprise them at work, go stargazing on the beach together. Do whatever it takes to keep you the two of you invigorated and stop your relationship from going stale, there is a whole world of possible things you could do for your partner.

a man surprising his girlfriend with flowers

Goal 4: Remain Open and Honest

 Honesty and openness are the key foundations of any relationship. You should create a couple goal in terms of honesty and trust. That means you have to be honest with your partner about your needs and wants and be open to their suggestions too. This way you can keep your relationship moving forward in order for both of you to grow as people.               This relationship goal might seem ambiguous, but there are several tangible examples. When asked how you’re feeling, think about how you truly feel and don’t say what you think your partner wants to hear. If you think your partner is going through a tough situation, ask them directly, don’t try and avoid the situation. It’s a big asset if you share a huge level of trust with your partner.

couple setting up romantic relationship goals

Goal 5: Be Adventurous

 You should always be pushing the boat out, trying new things. A romantic relationship is full of possibilities, why not explore some of them together with your partner? Going on a journey to a new city could make memories which will last a lifetime. Similar to keeping the romance alive, you must never let your spirit of adventure die either. 

 At the end of the day, a relationship is one big adventure, it should be anyway. For you to continue your adventure to exciting new territories you need to set relationship goals, do things that get you out of your comfort zone.

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Concluding remarks

 Setting and following goals is hard, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy. By reaching these 5 romantic couple goals, you definitely will elevate your relationship to another level. In the end any relationship where both partners are devoted to each-other and commit both time and effort into finding and fixing any holes in the relationship will succeed. 

 Continue working on your relationship by checking the five inevitable stages of every relationship to get more insights to grow. 

 All romantic couple goals come down to making a conscious effort to furthering your relationship, through being honest, loving, and thoughtful. We hope these relationship goals help you and your partner reach new heights, remember consistency is key. For a long-lasting relationship, you have to make sure you and your partner are committed 24/7. You might as well try, who knows where you’ll go.

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Luxy is introducing Video Date named ‘FaceMe’

 For everyone under quarantine, missing meeting new people, Luxy brings with the new feature “FaceMe”, some cheer to its users. The feature has been launched just now on the Luxy app and is ideally for people who want to meet their matches in a fast way. 

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 Luxy emphasizes that in the current situation we are all in together, and like many others, the Corona Virus has forced most of us into our homes during the lockdown. Especially for singles this is a disadvantages since they stay home alone, meet someone gorgeous on Luxy and really wanted to go out to meet him or her, but sadly, it is not the right time to meet someone to have a coffee.

 According to our research, 89% of Luxy users prefer digital dating during this special time. Luxy wants to support you now in any way we can. That’s why we are launching “FaceMe” what provides you with holding a digital date any time you want in your living room right now!


How to Stay Connected with Potential Dates While Social Distancing

 Even though you will be self-isolating for the foreseeable future, the physical and intimate aspects of any relationship are still as important as the emotional and intellectual aspects.

 There are multiple benefits to intimacy, such as less stress, better sleep, and better relaxation. So, try sexing if you are ready! This will keep things exciting and interesting until you can reconnect in person. This can be an exciting but sometimes nerve-racking experience for some online daters. So, if you or your date are experiencing sexual anxiety or trouble maintaining an erection, there are daily medications, like Cialis, available to treat erectile dysfunction.

 Remember there is no rush to get physical, so relax and take it slow if you need to.

 Although times have changed and you are limited on where you can go and what you can do, life doesn’t have to stop altogether. You can use this time to get creative and build deeper relationships based on personality and prepare yourself for when this is all over by dealing with any sexual and personal anxiety you may have related to dating.

 It’s possible that you may meet the perfect person for you online during this quarantine and creating fun ways to stay connected could keep the flame burning until you are able to see them in person!